Hi friends! This is CHAPTER TWO of #TechnicallyAutistic: Dispatches from the Periphery, a micro-memoir about words, meanings, and the dilemma of diagnosis. If you’re new, start HERE.
UPDATE 10/01/23 - Cannon Events Part One and Two were originally posted on August under a singular page, titled Once Upon a Time. I was away because I had a family emergency, but when I logged back in, the first thing I noticed was how LONG that post was. In preparation for having more content on here, I wanted to split that first post for better readability.
In The Junkyard Wonders, the leader of the “junkyard,” Mrs. Peterson doesn’t flinch at the epithet. The junkyard, she says, is “a place of wondrous possibilities.” One day, the tenacious teacher takes her students on a field trip with a mission: go through the junkyard, and look for something valuable.
There are plenty, and Trisha’s group recovers a beaten-up model airplane. Their unique perspectives breed innovation: a motor-driven drone, named Junkyard Wonder.
If the entire world insists on labeling you, reclaiming it might just be the most powerful thing you can do. That was also the philosophy I adopted, when I started writing about my disability.
Towards the end of sixth grade, I began writing what would soon become a book idea — a tell-all memoir about being an autistic teenager.
After nearly a year of fumbling my way across nine subjects, two extracurriculars, and dozens of occupied lunch tables, I admitted to myself that the whole autism thing might be a bigger deal than I’d previously thought.
They were right — I struggled to make friends. I didn’t know how to break the ice. Faced with the alternative of isolating myself, I engaged people by brute force: I would keep pestering them until they respond, clinging to the possibility that the conversation would go somewhere.
In class, I found myself straining to concentrate. Maths and sciences were the worst. Trying to find out how to solve a math problem made my head hurt. Trying to find out why also made my head hurt. The laws of mathematics felt magical in the worst way; utterly unpredictable with no rhyme or reason.
Faced with the reality of my disability, I turned on my parents’ desktop and opened Microsoft Word. I just found it easier to express myself in writing. I already had a habit of bulleting my thoughts and printing them out when I approached my teachers with a personal concern. They encouraged this, thankfully. And as time went on, I became more fancy with my writing.
I think it was early 2014 when one of those .docs turned into a packet.
And then the packet turned into a booklet.
And then the booklet turned into a book idea.
From seventh grade through eighth grade, I worked on my manuscript nearly every day after school.
I spent many hours researching. I mainly wanted to figure out how to sound smart when I write, but I learned so much more than that. One day, I stumbled across Autistic Hoya, a blog run by disability rights activist Lydia X.Z Brown. Shortly after, I discovered #ActuallyAutistic, a hashtag used by autistic self-advocates to share their experiences.
Up until that point, I’d only ever heard the word autistic in a negative context. The kids who said that someone had autism said so with an uncomfortably deferential nod; the kids who said that someone was autistic scoffed and sneered, making no effort to hide their disdain. And it had become clear that this association wasn’t something I could run from. I had a speech impediment, and some other things I couldn’t put a finger to yet but filled my head with shame, disgust, and stereotypical images.
The stories under #ActuallyAutistic gave me the reassurance I needed:
I wasn’t imagining all the demeaning interactions I’ve had over the years and that I wasn’t at fault, even if anyone said that I was shoving it in their faces and that they didn’t like it.
The stigma against autism, like any other form of prejudice, is something we can — and should — overcome as a society.
In the final version of the manuscript, titled Something About Me: The (100% True) Confessions of an Autistic Teenager, I wrote
It was easy for me to leave “all the other autistic kids” in the corner to deal with the stereotypes, generalizations, and isolation, while I go out there and party with “normal” people. That changed, when I found out that I had a lot in common with a lot of other people all over the place in the spectrum.
The project came to an abrupt end when I was hospitalized for a dissociative episode. I was a kid who dove headfirst into a long-term writing project, with no way to stay grounded. It was time to let go. (I always say that it’s for the best because as much as I strive to embrace the cringe, I’d like to be spared from having 100+ pages of my eighth-grade theatrics available for public consumption, please)
The process of writing a book gave me something priceless: a sense of direction. There was something so transformative about writing that also felt essential to my survival.
I wanted to do this for the rest of my life.